Cooking Success

Success does big things to people. It grants power of speech, collaboration and contribution, admiration, 

It drags out the beast in us into the bargain, to a point of misery where we would do anything to show “We’ve made it!”.


It’s the blood to our vampirism, a thirst that never sets, lingering in the corners of our mind. Even in death, success we seek, each to their own.


What is it to us?


We all hear and read “the recipe to succeed in life” on a daily basis, billionaires teaching us how to be a “societal Master”. But how can I embrace my life’s attainments, unconscious as to what my purpose is? Am I disguising the fulfilment of expectations placed on me as wins or is this my Ikigai?


I’ve learned, the most peaceful individuals are the most successful.

No surprise the ones in reposeful lives, with roaring calmness and mental sharpness, have reached so, with the harness of “the now”. 


Our daily successes are to have undying focus to the present, policing the distracted mind, as with peacefulness comes clarity. Clarity of the mind, needed to recognise which are the blessings and curses. 

A reminder to our way of attracting what we allow.



Success, the struck to our nerves


We go around telling people not to share their successes, either in awe as to what’s been achieved or in projected shame to our inaction, and sometimes the two combined.

Times I thought, said and heard “They are too cocky, always talking about the things they’ve achieved.”.


Only now I realise how important it is to share our results and experiences, but most importantly the journeys taken in reaching those goals. What examples are going to inspire the next generations, if not ours? 

Either way people are going to see it, so why not celebrate them together, cheer and push each other with understanding. 


Someone winning, has nothing to me losing, hence “ I’m lucky to be sharing this moment with this person in joy”; 


Someone sharing their achievements has everything to do with them and doesn’t mean I’m lesser than, “I’m grateful for having so many achieving and ambitious people in my life, you know what they say about you and the people you circle with!”


Someone explaining their journey, is not to gain pity on how hard it is, it’s all about laying a road for a disoriented starter, “I’m so grateful to come across so many people, willing to share their stories, I can only learn from them”



Success is figuring out you


The best thing we can do for ourselves is to analyse us, first. 

The process of introspection leads to attracting what is truly needed, what is meant and what fuels the growth, anything out of that, has been consistently stripped away, it’s almost as the trash takes care of itself from your life. Pretty harsh way, but a true blessing in disguise.


“You see who’s hearing you and who’s listening to you. Same to the ear, different to your Energy.“


Have you ever stopped talking and act as a spectator to your group of friends? Try it next time you’re out and look at the battle of insights. The competition between who has anything better to say, we need to know we’ve made the impact. 


“Listen more than you speak”.

We need to put our egos to rest and allow ourselves to engage in successful conversations, not just talk at each other, we have diaries and blogs for that. Get your upper hand and


Success starts with every choice we do, every moment we choose not to win over someone, we win over the ones who don’t need you, but choose you, and that goes for opportunities too.


What’s your take on success and what is it to you?


High school dropout, who emigrated from Italy to London in 2019. Spiritual being who confidently made her way to a life of contentment, freedom and individualistic thinking, in an illusive world.

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